We have all said something like...
"I want to lose weight."
"I want to get fit”
"I want to feel better”
And then in the next breath, we say/do this...
I just ordered a Pizza.
I haven’t been to the gym this week/month/year
I haven’t gotten 8 hours of sleep in months.
We say a lot of things about what we want…but do our actions each day back those desires up? Clearly the example above doesn’t line up.
This is pretty common for most people. We have a list of things that we want in our lives, like a family, friends, health and fitness, etc. on some kind of universal “to do” list in the back of our heads at all times. Most people work out the family and friends thing pretty well, but when it comes to their health and fitness, these seem to be the items that consistently get pushed to the bottom of the list.
How and why does this happen? Why does taking care of ourselves fall to the bottom of our priority list?
Very few people address the “why”:
Before you do anything, you need to address “why” your desires are important to you. What is motivating you to want better your health and fitnes? Be honest with yourself, there is no wrong answer to these questions.
If you work out because you enjoy the process of doing so, and it’s great social time…awesome. If you’re in it to avoid disease, live a better and healthier life for the long haul, that’s great. If you simply want to fit into your favorite pair jeans, ok, no worries, but ask yourself “why is that important to me?”
Bottom line, these are YOUR motivations, don’t let someone else dictate to you what you “should” be worried about. You are the one that has to own this process, so you are best to have a good idea as to why you’re out there doing the work.
Change your speech:
This internal dialogue we all have in our head can be an angel or a devil for sure. Sometimes the conversation is derailing you without you even being aware. To that end, It’s time to ditch words like “should”, “wish”, “going to”, and “want”. These words portend that you are just thinking about something far off in the future, but today you’d rather just…not. They don’t say anything about what you are doing RIGHT NOW. So now it’s time to exchange those words with “I will” and better yet “I am”.
Some folks take it a step further and don’t say anything at all…sometimes you just need to start doing something and let your actions do the talking for you.
Write down what you want:
Sounds simple, but go ahead and start your physical daily to do list with your goal. Then write down the 3 actions you need to make each day to make them happen. Staring at these every day will motivate you when you lease expect it. It serves as a reminder of what you value and hold dear.
Tell someone what you are ARE doing:
Accountability is extremely important. Tell a friend what you are going to be up to. Tell them in excruciating detail so that they really understand it. Then make a deal with them…make sure they ask you about it regularly. If you don’t have a friend you can trust to do this, use your coach. This is what we are here for.
So, as you’re out there making the world a better place today, start thinking about whether your actions match what you say you want. If they don’t, it’s time to either change the actions, or change the desired outcome.